I confess – I was eavesdropping, but I’m oh so glad I did.

Shary was celebrating her anniversary. As a divorced, single mom, I am always inspired when I hear about someone who has made it to “the other side”. So, watching her toast with her friends and gush about her anniversary, I couldn’t help being sucked in.

After I congratulated her, I noticed her husband wasn’t beside her. When I asked her where he was, she replied with exuberance, “He? No, girl – I married MYSELF, and we are celebrating my third anniversary!”

She then proceeded to tell me how happy she has been in this marriage and showed me the ring she designed for herself. She said, “Nobody’s gonna love me like I can love me.”

Can I get an AMEN?

Needless to say, Shary got me thinking: if I married myself, what would that marriage look like? I think it would go something like this:

1. We would always feel adored instead of ignored.
2. We would tell each other every day how we can accomplish anything our heart desires.
3. We would have amazing sex.
4. We would love our bodies that carry us through this crazy life every day.
5. We would be patient with each other when we so often speak from fear instead of the love that is hiding just beneath the surface.
6. We would remind ourselves that we are always going to be okay, no matter what, and find a solution together.
7. We would look to the future and never look back.
8. We would be honest with each other and never, ever lie.
9. We would only say the best things about each other to anyone who would care to listen.
10. We would forgive our faults and focus on our strengths.
11. We would dance in the kitchen every day.
12. We would figure out why God brought us here and then live out our legacy together with joy, knowing that we are serving something greater than we can ever be on our own.

Regardless of where we are in our relationships with others, I think Shary is on to something important. I challenge each of us to get on bended knee and ask ourselves with love, “Will you marry me?”

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