Just because you’ve got the outfit and finally found the right shoes doesn’t guarantee you’ll be emotionally ready or even camera ready for the big night.

Here are 10 things you can do to feel sexy before, during and after an event:

1. Relax: Take a bubble bath, pour a glass of champagne, and bring along your must have vibrator (like the Waterproof Mini Love Bullet), light scented candles to calm the senses and let go.

2. Visualization: While relishing in your post-bath haze, try some pre-event visualization. Think about how sexy you’re going to feel walking into the event. Feel it, know it, and expect it. Visualizing positive outcomes and thinking positive thoughts can actually affect your behavior during the big event.

3. Beauty Beat: You want to try some new products so best to practice at least the night before: test the shimmer lotion that’s supposed to make your décolletage supple, practice with the false eyelashes and experiment with that new electric blue eyeshadow.

4. Outfit: Last thing you want is to be rushing around the night of the event trying on the patterned tights, with the new heels and the funky purse. We’ve all had those last minute wardrobe malfunctions where you’re forced to settle for that “other” outfit that leaves you feeling anything but sexy.

5. Blow Out: Salons that specialize in blow-outs are popping up across the country. Why not treat yourself to a sexy new hairstyle. A good hair day is never underrated

6. Lingerie: Wearing sexy lingerie is a full proof way to feel sexy inside and out.

7. Be Positive: No one wants to hear about your bad hair day so to speak, so think of the good things in your life (and there are many) and shine and share around those details. People are attracted to positive people and positive = sexy.

8. Body Language: Sexiness is as much about posture and voice intonation as it is about cleavage or skirt length. Your body language is a way to exude sexiness. Crossed arms or ankles says ‘stay away”. Lean forward while talking and leave your arms by your side. Opening up your posture conveys that you’re inviting interaction

9. Touch Yourself: Touching your clothes – adjusting your necklace or smoothing your skirt – draws attention to the more feminine parts of your body without being crude.

10. Take a Stand: Staying on your feet makes you look confident, and confidence has been rated a top sexy trait. When you’re visually lower than everyone else it’s more challenging to engage as your best self assured sexy self.

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