But this is a great opportunity to turn your passion for the cause into just plain passion!

Here are some basic do’s and don’ts to consider so you’ll be more likely to meet someone special along the way.

Confidence:

Body Language:

Conversation:

It’s all about being yourself, being open for conversation with everyone you meet. Giving compliments can be a great opener. Pay attention to cues from your prospective new ‘friend’ – are they interested? Holding conversation? Asking questions back at you? You might be on to something. However if you sense that their eyes are wandering or making frequent trips to the bathroom it’s probably time to move your sexy self over to a new object of interest!

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Here are 10 things you can do to feel sexy before, during and after an event:

1. Relax: Take a bubble bath, pour a glass of champagne, and bring along your must have vibrator (like the Waterproof Mini Love Bullet), light scented candles to calm the senses and let go.

2. Visualization: While relishing in your post-bath haze, try some pre-event visualization. Think about how sexy you’re going to feel walking into the event. Feel it, know it, and expect it. Visualizing positive outcomes and thinking positive thoughts can actually affect your behavior during the big event.

3. Beauty Beat: You want to try some new products so best to practice at least the night before: test the shimmer lotion that’s supposed to make your décolletage supple, practice with the false eyelashes and experiment with that new electric blue eyeshadow.

4. Outfit: Last thing you want is to be rushing around the night of the event trying on the patterned tights, with the new heels and the funky purse. We’ve all had those last minute wardrobe malfunctions where you’re forced to settle for that “other” outfit that leaves you feeling anything but sexy.

5. Blow Out: Salons that specialize in blow-outs are popping up across the country. Why not treat yourself to a sexy new hairstyle. A good hair day is never underrated

6. Lingerie: Wearing sexy lingerie is a full proof way to feel sexy inside and out.

7. Be Positive: No one wants to hear about your bad hair day so to speak, so think of the good things in your life (and there are many) and shine and share around those details. People are attracted to positive people and positive = sexy.

8. Body Language: Sexiness is as much about posture and voice intonation as it is about cleavage or skirt length. Your body language is a way to exude sexiness. Crossed arms or ankles says ‘stay away”. Lean forward while talking and leave your arms by your side. Opening up your posture conveys that you’re inviting interaction

9. Touch Yourself: Touching your clothes – adjusting your necklace or smoothing your skirt – draws attention to the more feminine parts of your body without being crude.

10. Take a Stand: Staying on your feet makes you look confident, and confidence has been rated a top sexy trait. When you’re visually lower than everyone else it’s more challenging to engage as your best self assured sexy self.

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Madame Chair’s Guide to Keeping Love Alive

Congratulations! You’ve scored the top spot as chair of your favorite charity event. It’s an honor bestowed on to only a select few and now you’ve joined the ranks. As chair, you plan to tackle the job with style and a studied a vengeance. You’ve got months of work ahead of you, you realize much of your life will be put on the backburner as you juggle guest lists, committees, catering, Rsvp’s and marketing.

Sure, you’ll have to make some lifestyle cutbacks for a few months, but how can you do so without jeopardizing your relationship? Can you really keep your sweetie happy in a time of chaos?

Absolutely, But you’ll have to make some extra efforts along the way.

People don’t plan to fail they fail to plan. And planning to keep your partner happy is the first step towards maintaining success in your relationship, and ultimately success in your event.

Phase I: Planning: Love vs. Work

While planning the event, make sure you communicate to him the importance of your work as chair, and what it means to you, Explain that while you might seem busier than usual, you still plan to prioritize your relationship. Demonstrate this by making extra efforts like scheduling date nights amidst your hurried schedule.

Phase II: Event Night: Actions Speak Louder than Words

The big night arrives and your sweetie is coming along for the ride but the last thing you want is for him to feel like the caboose.

Have him help you pick out your sexiest gown and the lingerie to go with it. This way he’ll know when the last guest has left, he’ll get to take you home and will know exactly what’s in store. When arriving at the event, walk in arm and arm and introduce him around so he feels comfortable and a part of the crowd

Thank your partner in your welcoming remarks, and recognize him for his support. Statistics show that that what you communicate to your partner is mostly through your body language: words are about 7%, tone of voice is about 38% and the remaining 55% are contained in body language and facial expressions. So, simple graces and acts of affection go a long way and so maybe you’ll even find time to sneak off for a few seconds of secret smooching.

Phase III: The Party’s Over

You survived the party and the event was a smash success so you should definitely plan a post party celebration. Go away for a special weekend, borrow a friend’s vacation house or take a day long road trip to your favorite romantic spot. Do something that involves the two of you relaxing and reigniting the flames that might’ve been dormant. Remember that power is sexy, and he just got to witness you showcasing one of your strongest assets so now you can bask in your glory together.

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I hear you: you live in the worst town to date. Everyone is taken, too old, too young, works too much, or not at all, too gay, too straight and you’re well, perfect, at least perfectly available, believe me, I’ve heard it all.

But don’t fret because you’re far from alone. I hear this from singletons coast to coast and each city has its unique set of complaints of why their city fails them in matters of the heart. Los Angeleans complain that everyone is looking for the “BBD” (bigger better deal), San Franciscans allege that no one goes on real dates anymore and New Yorkers think the entire city appears to be on a joint speed date rotating around the same cast of characters in an endless orbit of musical dating chairs.

Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s talk about how you can meet someone. Because you will, but it does mean you have to step outside your comfort zone and try something different. We all get set in our ways, do the same weekly activities, whether it’s going to the office, the gym, and having dinner with your usual suspects. So it’s no wonder you’re not meeting anyone new. When you challenge yourself to participate in new experiences you’re opening yourself up to meeting a fresh group of people.

It’s easier than you think, and you’ll be giving back at the same time. Find an activity and cause you believe in and participate in a local charity event. This is surefire way to find someone who fills your bottom line issues and maybe even your heart.

You’ll be surrounded by new people, attending steering committee events and grabbing drinks afterwards with your new philanthropic minded friends. Plus, you’re more likely to meet someone who shares your values. And volunteering is sexy, don’t you think?

Check out these national organizations with a co-ed volunteer base:

1. Habitat For Humanity – Work up a sexy sweat while while building homes for those in need.

2. SPCA – Animal lovers unite at the SPCA where you’ll swoon over your new furry friends and them over each other.

3. Nature Conservancy – Hug some trees and then maybe each other after working in nature saving the world one tree at a time.

4. American Red Cross – Responding to national disasters will get your blood pumping together.

5. Special Olympics – Nothing like the inspiriation of truly helping children accomplish their goals to inspire your own new relationships.

Have you met your match through a volunteer organization? Let me know. I want to hear about it! Tell me in the comment box below.

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